Alright, hello, everyone. Sorry about this technical difficulty I seem to be having here. It's been a while since I've went live. So it's, I don't know, maybe I'm just rusty. But I'm happy to be here. Happy to answer all your sleep questions. 

And I know this came up by surprise, you know, you don't have much time to come up with questions, and that's okay. So I'm just going to talk about some of the most common questions I get. Generally, what I hear from parents is that their child, be it a toddler or a newborn or baby, they generally get to sleep okay. But then they have multiple wakings in the night, and it could be for they need something to eat, or if it's a toddler, oh, I'm thirsty. Oh, I need my toy. Oh, I need my stuffed animal. Mommy, come play with me. Whatever it might be. I had a client that did that before toddler. And we had stripped all those things away. No, you're not getting those things in the night. And then he finally just resorted to saying, Can I have something makes me laugh every time I think of it was just like, I'm so desperate mom for something, anything. You know, you have to meet this need of mine. And mom's like, no, go to sleep. And? And he did. So that is a question I get a lot. What do we do with this child that they get to sleep just fine, but they are waking frequently in the night. So if it's a newborn, or even a baby up to the six month range, that's totally normal. Their, their stomach is very small, as a newborn, it's about that big about as big as a marble. So they will need to wake frequently in the night about every two hours to eat. And then once they hit the six month mark, if they're of a really good weight, they're developing well meeting all their milestones, then they can go 11 to 12 hours in the night without waking for a feed. But I wouldn't just take my word for it, I would absolutely check with your pediatrician. Because they're going to know your child's there your child's health better than I do, obviously. So they'll be able to direct you better than than I can. But generally, if your child's have a good weight and development when they hit that six month mark, there's no more reason for nightwakings

So what do you do with this child? That's waking all the time? In the night? Well, first, you want to assess is this a child that is waking because they truly are hungry? You know? Or is this a child that they're like? Yeah, I could eat? I'm not hungry. But if mom comes in with my with a bottle, or my favorite snack, absolutely, I'll wake up and I'll I'll eat it. Right? And if you think about it, wouldn't you do the same? So if my husband woke me up in the middle of the night with chocolate cake. I'm not hungry, but okay, I could eat that. That's delicious. Sure. You know, so you want to think is that actually what's happening here. And if that is what is happening, then you want to break that, that dependency on whatever that thing is that they're waking for in the night. And that can certainly be a challenge. And it's something most parents really struggle to do on their own. Because you're naturally more emotional with your own child, you're like, oh, but what if they really are hungry? What if they really do need me? And it's harder for you to just be like, nope, go to sleep, you know. So that's where I come in, and I can help coach you and help you understand that this child is just kind of pulling the strings, you know, they're not actually hungry. They're not actually like, needing you to get back to sleep, they can absolutely do it on their own. So that was my, the number one question I get. Probably the number two question. That's the most second most popular is naps. You know, maybe that first morning nap is great. But what's the second nap is 20 minutes, and the kids up? And they're grouchy for the rest of the afternoon. And you're just like, oh, can it be bedtime already?


So generally, that's that's a pretty normal thing. And when I see that, it usually tells me that this child is very prompt dependent, if that is happening, so that means they're using a pacifier or they're nursing or they're using a bottle or they're getting rocked or even driven in the car. And that's their method in their mode of getting to sleep. So they get to the end of a sleep cycle which is is 20 to 40 minutes long, and they don't know how to get back to sleep. So they're kind of partially awake, partially asleep and they're like, I need that bottle to get back to sleep. Mommy can give me the ball. So my advice for that is let's do our work to get that child sleeping independently without that external thing. And they think they need it. You think they need it to get to sleep, but they don't. And again, that's another challenging thing for parents to kind of work out on their own and that's something I can absolutely help you with. Alright, I hope this has helped. If you have any questions, perhaps that I didn't answer here, feel free to leave them in the comments. And I'll get to you and answer your question just as soon as I can. Alright, thanks, sleep well.

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